7 Toxic Friend Types to Avoid
Beware of These Women
Friendship is a beautiful thing. Every woman needs great girlfriends who love and support her no matter what. The trouble is, not all of your friends really have your back like you think they do. It’s imperative to know the difference between healthy friendships and toxic ones.
Are some of your friends creating unnecessary drama in your world? If so, they’ve got to go. Here are seven types of girlfriends to avoid.
The Diva is high maintenance and usually a major headache to be around. If it’s not her way she’s headed for the highway and inviting her along makes everything more difficult than it has to be. You could never have a moment in the spotlight around her because she doesn’t like to share it. You love the energy she brings but ask yourself this: When was the last time she did something for you.
She flirts with everyone in sight and always knows more about the men in the room than the women. You plan to go out together but if there’s a man around who wants to chat she’s not going to pay any attention to you. At first her flirting seems harmless. She’s single, why not? Well you know what they say. Birds of a feather flock together. If you two are out together and she’s giving off “easy” vibes that means you might be too. You don’t want a rep you didn’t earn, do you? Remember, who you associate with is a reflection of who you are.
The Gossip has no clue what the definition of the word “secret” is. She’s usually the first to tell you whose husband did what with whom and why this person lost what and when. It’s fun to hear her dissect other people’s dirty laundry, but what happens when you stay home and she’s with someone else going through yours? The Gossip doesn’t mean to hurt people but she just can’t shut up. If you like to keep your private life private you may want to steer clear of her.
The Needy One
Before you can even make plans for the evening The Needy One has already called twice to be sure she gets an invite. When you go out together she’d rather talk than relax or party. She most likely has a lot going on right now and she looks to you as the person she can talk it over with.
You’re happy to be able to help, but even though you invest a lot of your time and energy into helping her it’s never enough. If you don’t call her back she gets upset and you find yourself apologizing for things you shouldn’t have to. She’s not your friend; she’s your responsibility. That’s no good.
The Hater is never satisfied. She has a comment or response for everything. You know the type. She doesn’t like the dress you chose, her drink is never mixed quite right and must be sent back, and the guys you meet are never good enough for you or her. She’s negative all the time and it will begin to block your positive vibes. If you’re waiting on a compliment from her, don’t. You’re never going to get one.
There’s nothing wrong with drinking in moderation, but this friend doesn’t know when to stop. You can’t taker her anywhere without realizing she’s had one too manym too fast. Once she does she’s no more fun and you feel like you’re babysitting instead of just hanging out. She’s always sorry the next day but then when you go out again she drinks just as much anyway. Know this woman? She will eventually get herself and you into trouble.
When she gets a night off she wants the world to stop and rotate around her so she’ll have a great time. But when it’s your turn to need a night out she’s “working late” or “has to get up super early in the morning”. She’s always on her blackberry but somehow always forgets to text or call her friends back.
When you’re out with her she does more e-mailing and venting about work than actual talking and you’re never sure she’s really paying attention to you. She’s made it clear her career comes before the relationships in her life, so what are you sticking around for?